Cravings for food are an indicator of unmet needs.
For example, if you find yourself confused at the end of a binge asking, “Why did I just do that?”, you likely craved something that had nothing to do with food, but food is the practiced way of making the craving ache go away.
Just because the ache goes away does not mean your need has been met,you’ll notice this when the ache comes back.
In my journey, I eventually found that feeling stuffed didn’t solve the ache.
The ache resolved through cultivating intimacy with it and meeting my needs.
Through this process of meeting the ache and my needs I recognized how much more pleasure and delight I feel in my body through meeting my needs and self-intimacy.
One way to get to the core needs that drive your food behaviors is to ask yourself this one powerful question:
What did I need from my mom and dad that I never got?
Those core needs, left unmet, often create the desperation underlying the urge to binge.
What did you crave from your parents that you never felt quite seen in?
Was it attention, intimacy, acceptance, love, cherishing?
As you begin to meet these needs you’ll notice your cravings to binge decrease with time.
If you would like my support with this I would love to hear from you.
